Sunday Morning 9-30-2012

Posted by Sherry


FAMILY MATTERS
Psalms 127:3-5 
CBC 9/30/2012 SM
Celebrating the family @ CBC is a wonderful opportunity
Family evidently is very important to God
He instituted the family from the very beginning.
Jesus instituted the church during His earthly ministry some years later
Today we’re going to explore what the Bible says specifically about Parents & Children
TEXT:
Sons are a heritage from the LORD, children a reward from him.
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are sons born in one’s youth.
Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. 
They will not be put to shame when they contend with their enemies in the gate (Psalm 127:3-5).
I. First, parents are to be dedicated (v. 3).
  • Vs 3 children are a blessing to parents from God. 
    • Selfish people disagree
      • burden
      • expensive
      • in the way
      • cramp “my” style
Jesus said in Luke 12:48, “From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked.” 
  • If you have the blessing of children, you are called to a high task. 
    • you must be dedicated
    • not dedicated to just anything either...:
First, you must be dedicated to the Lord. 
  • He’s the manufacturer
    • read the directions...Bible
    • establish a direct line of Tech Support
    • be enabled by the indwelling of the Holy Spirit for guidance
    • engage God’s economy so finances will be guaranteed
    • children depend on YOU, the parent
      • if you are out of commission, disconnected, etc...
      • the child is in danger of being lost
Second, parents must be dedicated to their children.
  • You, the parent have the responsibility of raising them!
    • a SANCTIFIED job...you are set apart for those particular children
    • you have a mandate to raise them CORRECTLY
      • respect from children is earned, it’s not free
      • the Bible calls for consistency in the relationship
      • quality time with the kids is a great INVESTMENT
        • intro the kids to your favorite activities
        • remember to let them intro you to their favorite activities
Third, parents must be dedicated to the task the Lord has given them.
  • This is the most important job you have or will ever have
    • can be the most rewarding job
    • can be the most devastating one
II. Second, children are to be directed (v. 4).
  • Biblical illustration describes children as “arrows in the hands of a warrior”
    • archery season...
    • skill, marksmanship, quick thinking, close range, difficult, not for the faint of heart
    • arrows are not guided missiles or like smart bombs...once they leave you no longer have control
    • it’s all in how much care you take in directing the arrow BEFORE FLIGHT!
    • a lot of factors go into correct arrow flight
      • proper fletching
      • straight shaft
      • proper weight of shaft
      • placement of knock on string
      • sight adjustment
      • bow adjusted and in working order...etc
* Children, like arrows will go where they are DIRECTED
First, arrows need to be polished.
  • A clean arrow is balanced & less affected by wind drag
    • when born children are not ready for shooting...LOL
      • that comes when they hit the teen years...
    • lot of work to do getting them ready to launch (better word than shoot...)
  • Popular philosophy is “let the child make their own choices”...ok
    • arrows never fly by themselves
    • laying on the shelf or in the case or quiver they will stay there (unproductive) until you set them up for launch at the target
Frederick Douglas said, “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” 
  • TLC an important first ingredient to a successful launch
    • love (action word)
      • both tender and tough
    • no one loves us more than God
      • He also established clear guidelines for us to follow also
      • describes His work in us as a “REFINER’S FIRE”
      • occasionally melts us down (hot water...last week) and skims off the impurities that surface
      • love that doesn’t LIMIT, is incomplete love!
      • how many times do you tell a child running toward a busy street to stop before YOU GO CATCH THEM AND BRING THEM TO SAFETY?????
      • Children need, strong, life directing love
Second, arrows need to be pointed
  • Discipline is a necessity
    • DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PUNISHMENT & DISCIPLINE...
    • punish - to subject to pain, loss, confinement, death, etc., as a penalty for some offense, transgression, or fault: (to punish a criminal.)
    • “Punishment is past-oriented. Punishment is paying your child back for hurting you in some way. Punishment says, ‘You ruined my day, so I’m going to ruin yours.’ . . . 
    • discipline - training to act in accordance with rules; drill: (military discipline.)
    • Discipline is future-oriented, it superintends future choices.” 
    • focused on the future – on directing your arrow where it is to go. 
    • without discipline, a child has NO DIRECTION
    • YOU’VE GOT TO POINT THEM SOMEWHERE!!!
    • Hebrews (12:11) we read, ‘All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterward it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.” 
    • Proverbs 13:24 says, “He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.” 
    • If you’re not disciplining (TRAINING) your child God says you don’t love them, you hate them. 
    • ‘You don’t punish children for doing something; You discipline them so they won’t do it again.
    • Proverbs 22:15 says, “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.” 
    • SIN NATURE: child’s natural tendency is sin...
    • Discipline molds, shapes and creates value in “flying right”
Third, Arrows need to be propelled
  • At some point, you’ve got to release. 
    • release is smooth and gradual
    • if shooting with fingers, you simply RELAX YOUR HAND & the tension will do the rest
III. Third, children can be dependable (v. 5).
  • 5 Happy, blessed, and fortunate is the man whose quiver is filled with them! They will not be put to shame when they speak with their adversaries [in gatherings] at the [city’s] gate.
    • properly polished, pointed & propelled children will hit their mark BULLS EYE
    • Adrian Rogers says, “Your children are going out into a world where they will meet ungodly philosophies like materialism and communism, and the playboy philosophy. They are going to meet atheism and cultism. But they will not be put to shame. Why? Because they know who they are; they have something that has been built into them by mom and dad in the university of life called the home. You can depend on children like that.” 
  • Proverbs 22:6, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” 
    • Dependable children come from families with dedicated parents that directed them. (NO WHERE ELSE)
    • Someone said, “Training a child isn’t that hard, you just have to lead the way!”
  • Proverbs 23:26, the father says, “My son, give me your heart and let your eyes keep to my ways.” 
    • Consistency is vital
    • What do you do if your kids grow up and hit the mark....???
    • come to this altar (with them if they’re here) and THANK GOD!!!
CONCLUSION
  • Proverbs 17:6 “Parents are the pride of their children”
    • NOT:
      • benefactors of their children
      • buddies of their children
      • task masters of their children
      • abusers of their children

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