Sunday Morning 8-19-2012 Overcoming Anger

Posted by Sherry

Overcoming Anger
Proverbs 19:11
CBC 8/19/12 & COPchurch  
11 Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense.
ILL. The story is told that in the latter 1800’s, Alfred Lord Tennyson invited a Russian nobleman to his estate. And early one morning this nobleman took off with dogs & guns & servants to go hunting.
At mid-day he returned & Lord Tennyson asked him how he did. He answered, "Not very well. I shot two peasants." Lord Tennyson thought for a moment & then said, “No, we pronounce it with a ‘ph’ here. It is ‘pheasants.’ You shot two pheasants."
"No," the nobleman replied, "I shot two peasants. They were insolent towards me, so I shot them."
ILL. Now we smile in disbelief at a story like that. But a driver in Philadelphia shot another driver on the highway. There was a construction blockage on the road, narrowing traffic down to only one lane, creating long backups as cars from each direction took turns getting past the blockage.
Well, this driver patiently waited his turn. But just as he was about to get past the blockage, a car came up fast on the shoulder, passing all the waiting cars, & crowded just in front of him. Then after doing that, the driver turned around with a smirk on his face & made an obscene gesture.
Well, that infuriated the first driver. So when traffic was stopped at the next construction bottleneck, he got out of his car, took out his gun & shot the man in front of him to death.
Stories like that have popped up all over the country. 
TEXT: Proverbs 19:11 Good sense makes a man restrain his anger, and it is his glory to overlook a transgression or an offense.
  1. have you ever lost your temper? 
  • Do you ever do things you wish you hadn’t done, or say things you wish you had never said?
    • "A man’s wisdom gives him patience. It is to his glory to overlook an offense."
    • God’s wisdom allows us to not allow difficult situations to become major events that overwhelm us
B. 4 types of anger dealt with in the Bible.
  • SUDDEN ANGER - to be controlled
  • SINFUL ANGER - to be condemned
  • STUBBORN ANGER - to be conquered
  • SANCTIFIED ANGER - to be channeled 
  • Proverbs 14:17 "A quick-tempered man does foolish things."
    • we’ve all experienced that
    • we sometimes rationalize why we have a “short fuse”
    • bottom line is, we’re prone to make unwise decisions 
  • Proverbs 15:18 says, "A hot tempered man stirs up dissension."
    • that leaves a trail of hurt feelings and unhappiness 
ILL. Will Rogers said, "Whenever you fly into a rage, you seldom make a safe landing." 
ILL. Chuck Swindoll said, "I got so angry that I gave him a piece of my mind. And it was a piece that I couldn’t afford to lose." 
  • Proverbs 18:13 says, "He who answers before listening - that is his folly & his shame." 
    • talking about jumping to conclusions. 
    • hear just a little bit of what is said, & instantly jump to a conclusion, 
    • & oftentimes it is the wrong conclusion. 
    • IF we ACT on a wrong conclusion we’re going to look pretty silly in front of some people, possibly some important people
  • Proverbs 19:19 says, "A hot-tempered man must pay the penalty." 
    • Doctors - losing our temper consistently brings about high blood pressure, dryness of mouth, & a fast-beating heart. It could even bring pre-mature death. 
    • loss of friends
    • loss of family...etc.
  • How Do We Control a Sudden Temper?
    • The same way I answer the door when you are there and Ms. Linda and I were in the middle of an Intense Fellowship Session.
    • Step 1: Get off the Egyptian river (Denial) and admit there’s a temper problem
    • Step 2: Quit blaming it on things. (Heritage, red hair, short-fuse, etc.) 
      • we can never improve when IT’S NOT OUR FAULT
    • Step 3: Admit the the Good Lord our problem & ask for help
      • When the Holy Spirit guides our life one of the benefits is SELF-CONTROL
  • Not All Anger is Sinful, But Some Is
    • Anger Type Determination Exercise
  • Matthew 5:21, Jesus says, "You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, `Do not murder, & anyone who murders will be subject to judgment.’ But I tell you that anyone who is angry with his brother will be subject to judgment."
    • Question 1: Can this person qualify as my “BROTHER”?
      • blood kin
      • spiritual kin
      • “brothers” are instructed to lift each other up, encourage & help each other, not spend time angry at each other
    • Question 2: Is there a legitimate reason for being angry?
      • Bible directs us to not be angry “without just cause”
    • Question 3: Is our anger focused on the PERSON or their TRANSGRESSION?
      • we are not authorized to be angry at another PERSON b/c we have fallen short of the glory of God just like them. (all sinners, none righteous) Ro. 3
  • Romans 12:19 Paul says, "Do not take revenge, my friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: `It is mine to avenge; I will repay,’ says the Lord."
    • Question 4: Is it anger that seeks revenge?
      • if we’re trying to get even remember they’re not ahead of us...all sinners
      • the Perfect God, is only one who has right of vengeance...& we a’int Him
    • Question 5: Is it anger that is cherished?
      • some enjoy being SICK b/c of the attention it gets them
      • some enjoy being ANGRY...been like that for addiction...
ILL. Remember what Jesus said to the man who was by the pool, waiting to be healed, & he couldn’t get to the water soon enough? Jesus asked him, "Do you want to be healed?" Important question!
  • Question 6: Do we have an unforgiving spirit?
    • secret to getting rid of anger is to be able to forgive
    • if forgiveness is not an option, sinful anger is the destiny
SUM. So here are the 5 tests to tell whether or not our anger is sinful anger.
1. Is it anger directed towards a person? 
2. Is it anger without a justifiable cause?
3. Is it anger that seeks vengeance? 
4. Is it anger that is cherished?
5. Is it anger that has an unforgiving spirit?
If any of the answers to those questions is "yes," then our anger is a sinful anger. And the Bible says that it is to be condemned.
NOTE: Sinfulness requires turning away from it & allowing God to forgive us so that we too, can become forgiving people.
  • anger that just stays there, day after day after day.
  • it fosters a progressive downward spiral, notice the progression...
  • Ephesians 4:26. The KJV says, "Be ye angry, & sin not. Let not the sun go down on your wrath." 
  • 27 "And do not give the devil a foothold." 
  • 29 Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth,
  • 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God [do not offend or vex or sadden Him],
  • 31 Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind).
    • bitterness is beginning to think about all the bad things people do & say to you, insults, inconsiderations...
    • bitterness turns to rage & anger 
      • rage is boiling bitterness inside
      • anger is rage being expressed (eruption, no longer inside...)
    • brawling is quarreling, clamor & contention which leads to
    • slander - speaking evil, abusive, blasphemous language & the end is...
    • malice which is the point a person gets where they have the will to harm someone
    • the solution to the process is this, “don’t let the sun go down on your wrath”
    • v32 Be kind & compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
* Ephesians 4:26 says, "Be ye angry. . ." It is okay to be angry, but do not sin. 
* Mark 3:1-5. This is a passage that deals with a situation in the life of Jesus that I think is very revealing. It says:
"Another time he went into the synagogue, & a man with a shriveled hand was there. Some of them were looking for a reason to accuse Jesus, so they watched him closely to see if he would heal him on the Sabbath. And Jesus said to the man with the shriveled hand, `Stand up in front of everyone.’"
"Then Jesus asked them, `Which is lawful on the Sabbath: to do good or to do evil, to save life or to kill?’ But they remained silent." 
"He looked around at them in anger &, deeply distressed at their stubborn hearts. . ." You see, the focus of His anger is their hearts. 
He is angry because of their stubborn hearts & their stubborn anger. 
The sun has gone down. 
The sun has come up. 
And the devil has established a foothold in their lives. 
And Jesus is angry at their stubborn anger.
Then Jesus said, "Stretch out your hand." And he stretched it out, & his hand was completely restored."
  • CONCL. The Bible says that Jesus was tempted in all points, even as we are tempted, but He never sinned. 
    • So this passage teaches that Jesus became angry but it wasn’t sinful anger. 
    • It was sanctified anger, channeled anger, anger that has the right focus, & the right object.
  • Sanctified Anger may be the missing ingredient in the Church today
    • anger at the corruption of the world
    • angry at the forces of evil
    • angry at the upside down pay scale that makes game players rich & life riskers living pay check to pay check
    • angry at the possibility of someone going to their grave w/out a relationship with Jesus Christ that would prepare them for eternity
    • sanctified anger, a holy anger that is channeled in the right places
    • Maybe instead of getting Mad AS Hell, we need to be Mad AT Hell!
  • SUM. There are all kinds of anger.
    • if you’re wrestling with them, God promises to give you victory, if you’ll let Him.
    • be angry, but don’t sin
    • don’t let the sun go down on your wrath
    • don’t allow the devil a foothold in your life
    • channel that anger so it can accomplish a spiritual victory 


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