Sunday 2/19/2012

Posted by Sherry


POST VALENTINES DAY
Ephesians 4:25-32
CBC 2/19/2012
OK, we’re past Valentine’s Day...
now we need something more substantial than flowers & chocolate for a healthy marriage
here it is in black and white
25Therefore, rejecting all falsity and being done now with it, let everyone express the truth with his neighbor, for we are all parts of one body and members one of another.(A)
    26When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down.
    27Leave no [such] room or foothold for the devil [give no opportunity to him].
    28Let the thief steal no more, but rather let him be industrious, making an honest living with his own hands, so that he may be able to give to those in need.
    29Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God's favor) to those who hear it.
    30And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God [do not offend or vex or sadden Him], by Whom you were sealed (marked, branded as God's own, secured) for the day of redemption (of final deliverance through Christ from evil and the consequences of sin).
    31Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind).
    32And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you.
  • v25 “...express (speak) the TRUTH...”
  • V26 “When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down.
    • what does it mean, “when angry, do not sin;”?
    • first of all it’s a sin to let your anger last until the sun goes down...
    • why?
    • we hold out our anger b/c we want you to know we’re angry
    • we want to be vindicated by the suffering you endure as the result of our anger
* v27 that behavior gives Satan a foothold, (something he can hold on to)
    • that means HE OWNS YOU at that point
    • the only one who has the right to be angry is God the Righteous
    • our anger is a form of blasphemy
  • v28 Let the thief steal no more, but rather let him be industrious, making an honest living with his own hands, so that he may be able to give to those in need.
    • that’s called TANGIBLE REPENTANCE
    • OT example: law was, if you steal my ox, you have to give me my ox back (or cash value), plus one of yours
    • saying I’m sorry is an apology but not evidence of repentance
    • Repentance is a change in attitude that leads to change in behavior
    • ILL: man speaks to wife in a nasty, vicious & vile sort of way/
      • apology is appropriate, but not tangible repentance
      • now speak Appropriate words opposite of nasty, vicious and vile
  • v29 Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God's favor) to those who hear it.
    • don’t twist the scripture “speak the truth” as an excuse to say nasty, vicious and hurtful words about someone (that’s SIN)
    • EXCUSE: “Well I just speak my mind”
      • that’s the problem
      • instead speak the “Mind of Christ”
  • v 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God [do not offend or vex or sadden Him], by Whom you were sealed (marked, branded as God's own, secured) for the day of redemption (of final deliverance through Christ from evil and the consequences of sin).
    • that’s what we do with “trash” talk
  • v31 Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will, or baseness of any kind).
    • if we say something true, but it’s “bitter” = SIN
    • if we say something true, but it’s “slanderous” = SIN
    • if we say something true, but it’s “angry” = SIN
  • V32 And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another [readily and freely], as God in Christ forgave you.
    • don’t say things that are unkind
    • forgive one another [readily & freely]
    • “forgive & forget” NEWS FLASH: humans not designed to forget
      • couldn’t drive a car one day from the next
      • would wake up wonder who this was in your house
    • forgive - forgo my right to seek vengeance & justice for what you did to me
      • some people are controlled by people who are already dead b/c you won’t forgive them
      • some are controlled by people who live 100’s of miles away b/c you won’t forgive them
        • they’re going about happy as a lark & you can’t sleep at night
        • WHY? B/C your anger needs to be vindicated
        • unforgiveness is like you drinking poison hoping they die
      • unforgiveness is when you bring up the past that you said you had forgiven them of
  • UNCONVERTED (LOST) PEOPLE CANNOT ACCOMPLISH THESE COMMANDS
    • v 25 “Therefore, having put away falsehood...”
      • only through a relationship with Jesus Christ can one do that
    • v 25 “let everyone express the truth with his neighbor, for we are all parts of one body and members one of another.”
      • if we speak harshly of our spouse we have forgotten they are a part of us (members one of another)
      • Eph 5:25-27Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her,
      •     26So that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the Word,
      •     27That He might present the church to Himself in glorious splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such things [that she might be holy and faultless].
        • when we speak evil to our spouse we are inflicting harm upon ourself
      • Eph 5:28-30 Even so husbands should love their wives as [being in a sense] their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself.
      •     29For no man ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and carefully protects and cherishes it, as Christ does the church,
      •     30Because we are members (parts) of His body.
        • that also applies to how brothers & sisters in Christ speak to one another
      • Eph 4:11-15And His gifts were [varied; He Himself appointed and gave men to us] some to be apostles (special messengers), some prophets (inspired preachers and expounders), some evangelists (preachers of the Gospel, traveling missionaries), some pastors (shepherds of His flock) and teachers.
      •     12His intention was the perfecting and the full equipping of the saints (His consecrated people), [that they should do] the work of ministering toward building up Christ's body (the church),
      •     13[That it might develop] until we all attain oneness in the faith and in the comprehension of the [[a]full and accurate] knowledge of the Son of God, that [we might arrive] at really mature manhood (the completeness of personality which is nothing less than the standard height of Christ's own perfection), the measure of the stature of the fullness of the Christ and the completeness found in Him.
      •     14So then, we may no longer be children, tossed [like ships] to and fro between chance gusts of teaching and wavering with every changing wind of doctrine, [the prey of] the cunning and cleverness of [b]unscrupulous men, [gamblers engaged] in every shifting form of trickery in inventing errors to mislead.
      •     15Rather, let our lives lovingly [c]express truth [in all things, speaking truly, dealing truly, living truly]. Enfolded in love, let us grow up in every way and in all things into Him Who is the Head, [even] Christ (the Messiah, the Anointed One).
    • My wife is not just part of me in marriage
    • Your husband is not just a part of you in marriage
    • he/she is part of the body of Christ as we are a part of the body of Christ
    • if I despise my wife I’m in fact telling Jesus that I despise a part of His body
    • if we despise a brother or sister in Christ we are telling Jesus that we despise a part of His body
    • That’s not a “Behavioral” problem...
    • that’s a WORSHIP DISORDER, a blasphemer in sin & an idolater
    • when we don’t forgive, who is our idol?
      • look in the mirror!
CONCL:
  • Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives
    • you said for better or worse...this might be the worse part, love ur wife
    • sickness or health....this might be the sickness part, love ur wife
    • till death do us part...she’s still breathing, go love ur wife
    • but God doesn’t want me to be unhappy...God killed His own Son, but you’re not supposed to be unhappy? who do you think you are?
    • but I don’t see her as my wife anymore...then love your neighbor as yourself...go love your wife/neighbor
    • but we’re not neighbors b/c I moved out...love her b/c she’s a sister in Christ...go love your wife
    • but she’s mean to me...Jesus said, “Love your enemies”...go love ur wife
    • you have no choice...obey God and love your wife
    • Don’t you realize she is a part of the body of Christ?
      • r u saying, “Jesus, I can’t love you, not this part of you, b/c this part of you is not making me happy right now and since I’m the center of my universe if you want me to love you, you make me happy with this part of you and then maybe I will give you some love b/c your blood shed on the cross is just not enough reason for me.”
    • apply that to a brother or sister in Christ that you’re not happy with right now
    • are we that self-centered?
    • We don’t have a marriage problem in our culture...
    • we don’t have a anger with our brother problem...
    • WE HAVE A WORSHIP DISORDER (Jesus isn’t magnificent enough 4 U!)

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